In Part 1, we explored the importance of boundaries and how Eve’s lack of awareness left her vulnerable to deception. In this continuation, let’s look deeper into how boundaries are crossed today — and how wisdom helps us guard them.
Recognizing Attacks
Not all attacks are malicious, but all leave some form of injury. Sometimes, desperation leads people into harmful situations. Many women ignore the truth they know, plunging into relationships that strip them of dignity and peace. They hope things will improve if they change themselves to meet unhealthy expectations.
But boundaries also apply in reverse. Do you respect the limits others set? It is alarming how often people feel entitled to someone else’s time, space, or resources simply because they are family or colleagues at work. This is a subtle yet dangerous way of crossing boundaries. That goes to say, if we sincerely tell ourselves to respect others, we will be more conscious about stepping out of line.
Ignorance Is Not an Excuse
Eve was punished for her ignorance.
Notice that God did not even address Satan — He did not permit him into His presence. Instead, God confronted Adam. Adam’s reply revealed another misstep: poor handling of responsibility is also a breach of boundaries.
Deception rarely happens suddenly. In chapter 3 of Genesis, not too long after the creation, ‘One day, the serpent asked the woman…‘
Before the deception there was manipulation, there was scheming, conniving, colluding and then Satan launched his attack “one day”.
We have heard of how young girls and boys have fallen victims to sexual predators. They did not know there was an enemy let alone what the enemy looked like. That’s why people can be taken advantage of by those they know or met online.
Sometimes, Christians do not know what manipulation looks like or who the enemy really is. “We wrestle not against flesh and blood.”
The Cost of Ignoring Boundaries
When boundaries are ignored, the cost can be devastating:
- $10,000 spent on false promises
- stolen childhood innocence
- broken trust in relationships
- mental health struggles
- loss of self-esteem
- or even eternal consequences
Which cost are you willing to pay?
Guarding Your Boundaries
To guard your life, recognize your worth in Christ. When you know who you are, you are more likely to defend your boundaries. Allow access only to those who have proven trustworthy.
Sometimes confusion arises: Should I step in or step back? Should I speak or stay silent? Should I move now or wait? Life is not always clear. In such moments, seek clarity — politely ask, and ensure you understand the response. Don’t take offense if the answer isn’t what you hoped for.
Even with clear lines, people often cross boundaries out of obligation or fear of displeasing others. But compromising boundaries for peace rarely leads to true peace.
Final note on this
Boundaries protect your purpose. They are not cages but guardrails, keeping you safe as you pursue God’s plan for your life.
As Proverbs reminds us:
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore, get wisdom.”
Live with the liberty of boundaries and let wisdom guide every step.
Questions to Ponder:
- Do you recognize when others are setting boundaries with you? How do you respond?
- Which areas of your life feel most vulnerable to manipulation or deception?
- How can you invite God’s wisdom daily to help you guard your boundaries?